Thank you for that lovely piece. I can relate. I had similar instances when I was younger and in a difficult place personally.
Over the years I've found the concept of our feelings not being us quite helpful. I think Pema Chodron summed it up best; "You are the sky. Everything else - it's just the weather." Sometimes it is sunny, sometimes it is stormy. Some years the weather is better or worse than others. But it always temporary. It always changes. The danger is in getting stuck believing that your current feelings will never go away and can never be changed.
Thank you for bringing your wonderful perspective to this post and the quote that you mentioned is something I would love to live by. I'm glad you could relate to my experiences.
"My rage had shattered with the glass, and so had his. We talked, hugged, ate some instant noodles, and called it a day."
In my first marriage, and in my own messy journey towards the tiny mindfulness practices I now live as my normal. I shattered many a glass. A salad bowl (full to the brim) hit the wall right next to my then-husband, and my rage tumbled to the ground with the shards and the peppers. He stormed off and told me to "clean up my mess".
I'm not sure anyone's journey to mindfulness is a tidy one. it's more of an ugly-cry meander through muck to find the lotuses.
I'm honored to share the Mindfulness Space with you here on Substack. I'm so glad we are friends.
It’s so true that the path to mindfulness is far from neat—it’s often messy and full of those intense moments. Your honesty about that salad bowl moment hits deep because so many of us have been there in one way or another, where rage and vulnerability collide. I love how you’ve turned those experiences into something beautiful. I’m glad to share this space with you too, and so grateful for our friendship here on Substack.
Sonaakshi, I can relate to the emotions that surge out of proportion to the incident at present. Many don’t we know I’m sensitive and emotional person. That’s how well I’ve taught to cover up.
But now I realize that healing and being who I’m is what is liberating. I’m happy that you’ve found your way to this kind of awareness and stability. I’m somewhere in the middle and still need to get there. I’m writing about it too.
And I’m so sorry for your child. I can only imagine the pain.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your own journey. It's sad that we have to hide the sensitive, vulnerable side of ours because the world is not more accepting of raw emotions. Yet there's so much freedom in embracing who we really are and healing from within. It sounds like you're well on your way to finding that peace, even if you're still in the middle of it. Writing is such a powerful tool for reflection and growth, so I'm sure it will help guide you. And thank you for your compassion—it means a lot.
Thanks for sharing your journey it is great to read the "university of life" approach you have taken to get here with your mindfulness. Good for you for picking yourself up, finding a way to be a better you, and then sharing with others. Take good care.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It's true that sometimes the bad phases of your life push you in the right direction. Happy that you could resonate with it.
Thank you for that lovely piece. I can relate. I had similar instances when I was younger and in a difficult place personally.
Over the years I've found the concept of our feelings not being us quite helpful. I think Pema Chodron summed it up best; "You are the sky. Everything else - it's just the weather." Sometimes it is sunny, sometimes it is stormy. Some years the weather is better or worse than others. But it always temporary. It always changes. The danger is in getting stuck believing that your current feelings will never go away and can never be changed.
Thank you for bringing your wonderful perspective to this post and the quote that you mentioned is something I would love to live by. I'm glad you could relate to my experiences.
"My rage had shattered with the glass, and so had his. We talked, hugged, ate some instant noodles, and called it a day."
In my first marriage, and in my own messy journey towards the tiny mindfulness practices I now live as my normal. I shattered many a glass. A salad bowl (full to the brim) hit the wall right next to my then-husband, and my rage tumbled to the ground with the shards and the peppers. He stormed off and told me to "clean up my mess".
I'm not sure anyone's journey to mindfulness is a tidy one. it's more of an ugly-cry meander through muck to find the lotuses.
I'm honored to share the Mindfulness Space with you here on Substack. I'm so glad we are friends.
You're amazing for doing what you're doing Teri!
It’s so true that the path to mindfulness is far from neat—it’s often messy and full of those intense moments. Your honesty about that salad bowl moment hits deep because so many of us have been there in one way or another, where rage and vulnerability collide. I love how you’ve turned those experiences into something beautiful. I’m glad to share this space with you too, and so grateful for our friendship here on Substack.
Such a beautiful share. I'm glad you can write it all and get better in your journey..again, love love love the art work. ❤️
Thank you for your kind words, Tara! Writing certainly helps you heal.
Sonaakshi, I can relate to the emotions that surge out of proportion to the incident at present. Many don’t we know I’m sensitive and emotional person. That’s how well I’ve taught to cover up.
But now I realize that healing and being who I’m is what is liberating. I’m happy that you’ve found your way to this kind of awareness and stability. I’m somewhere in the middle and still need to get there. I’m writing about it too.
And I’m so sorry for your child. I can only imagine the pain.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your own journey. It's sad that we have to hide the sensitive, vulnerable side of ours because the world is not more accepting of raw emotions. Yet there's so much freedom in embracing who we really are and healing from within. It sounds like you're well on your way to finding that peace, even if you're still in the middle of it. Writing is such a powerful tool for reflection and growth, so I'm sure it will help guide you. And thank you for your compassion—it means a lot.
Thanks for sharing your journey it is great to read the "university of life" approach you have taken to get here with your mindfulness. Good for you for picking yourself up, finding a way to be a better you, and then sharing with others. Take good care.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It's true that sometimes the bad phases of your life push you in the right direction. Happy that you could resonate with it.