Thank you for that lovely piece. I can relate. I had similar instances when I was younger and in a difficult place personally.
Over the years I've found the concept of our feelings not being us quite helpful. I think Pema Chodron summed it up best; "You are the sky. Everything else - it's just the weather." Sometimes it is sunny, sometimes it is stormy. Some years the weather is better or worse than others. But it always temporary. It always changes. The danger is in getting stuck believing that your current feelings will never go away and can never be changed.
Thank you for bringing your wonderful perspective to this post and the quote that you mentioned is something I would love to live by. I'm glad you could relate to my experiences.
"My rage had shattered with the glass, and so had his. We talked, hugged, ate some instant noodles, and called it a day."
In my first marriage, and in my own messy journey towards the tiny mindfulness practices I now live as my normal. I shattered many a glass. A salad bowl (full to the brim) hit the wall right next to my then-husband, and my rage tumbled to the ground with the shards and the peppers. He stormed off and told me to "clean up my mess".
I'm not sure anyone's journey to mindfulness is a tidy one. it's more of an ugly-cry meander through muck to find the lotuses.
I'm honored to share the Mindfulness Space with you here on Substack. I'm so glad we are friends.
It’s so true that the path to mindfulness is far from neat—it’s often messy and full of those intense moments. Your honesty about that salad bowl moment hits deep because so many of us have been there in one way or another, where rage and vulnerability collide. I love how you’ve turned those experiences into something beautiful. I’m glad to share this space with you too, and so grateful for our friendship here on Substack.
Thanks for sharing your journey it is great to read the "university of life" approach you have taken to get here with your mindfulness. Good for you for picking yourself up, finding a way to be a better you, and then sharing with others. Take good care.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It's true that sometimes the bad phases of your life push you in the right direction. Happy that you could resonate with it.
“You can learn from me or choose not to—it’s up to you.” I think this is so true about everything in life. The universe is constantly teaching us lessons, but we must choose to listen.
Very true! It's said that you cannot save someone who doesn't want to be saved and similarly, you cannot force your life lessons on someone. Those who resonate with your message find you naturally, without many efforts. Thank you for your kind words!
This anger you have within you I have too. It’s rage and violence. I was afraid of it for years. I still am, partially, but I’ve started embracing it and now on my way to alchemise it. These emotions, they’re powerful and our power is there within the shadows, somewhere beyond the wounding and the hurt parts.
Have you used IFS as a way to meet the parts in the shadows?
So much to feel into and with here 💙 I know it was a while back, but I just want to say that I am so sorry you experienced that kind of loss. Thank you for sharing this whole post and with such humility.
Thank you so much for your kind words Sarah! Yes it was the most painful thing I've experienced but as I wrote, I have learned to accept it....and your compassion means a lot!
Sonaakshi, this was really awesome. So engaging, so heartfelt, so well written! I’m sorry it took me so long to subscribe, but I’m doing it right this instant!
Thank you for this vulnerable and yet uplifting and inspiring share 🙏💚
Oh you know how much it means coming from you right?!! I've been a fan of your work since I have joined Substack and your kind words means a lot. I'm trying to be better everyday and this kind of feedback inspires me to do so. And thank you so much for subscribing!
Thanks for sharing a bit of your journey with us. I think it's realistic that mindfulness is ups and downs, some days we're better at it than others and that's ok. Sharing your real journey and not some polished cleaned up version is way more helpful, because it's real.
This piece is a beautiful reminder that we are all a mix of light and darkness. Your journey of self-acceptance and forgiveness is so powerful. It's a lesson I'm still learning – to embrace all parts of myself, even the messy ones, and to let go of the need for perfection. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Sonaakshi, I can relate to the emotions that surge out of proportion to the incident at present. Many don’t we know I’m sensitive and emotional person. That’s how well I’ve taught to cover up.
But now I realize that healing and being who I’m is what is liberating. I’m happy that you’ve found your way to this kind of awareness and stability. I’m somewhere in the middle and still need to get there. I’m writing about it too.
And I’m so sorry for your child. I can only imagine the pain.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your own journey. It's sad that we have to hide the sensitive, vulnerable side of ours because the world is not more accepting of raw emotions. Yet there's so much freedom in embracing who we really are and healing from within. It sounds like you're well on your way to finding that peace, even if you're still in the middle of it. Writing is such a powerful tool for reflection and growth, so I'm sure it will help guide you. And thank you for your compassion—it means a lot.
Thank you for bringing your wonderful perspective and sharing your personal experience here. Your kind words means a lot to me. I'm glad to have found someone like you who has experienced something similar in life. I do not know what IFS is, please do enlighten me more about it. Again, appreciate your comment on this post.
Oh you know how much it means coming from you right?!! I've been a fan of your work since I have joined Substack and your kind words means a lot. I'm trying to be better everyday and this kind of feedback inspires me to do so. And thank you so much for subscribing!
Thank you for that lovely piece. I can relate. I had similar instances when I was younger and in a difficult place personally.
Over the years I've found the concept of our feelings not being us quite helpful. I think Pema Chodron summed it up best; "You are the sky. Everything else - it's just the weather." Sometimes it is sunny, sometimes it is stormy. Some years the weather is better or worse than others. But it always temporary. It always changes. The danger is in getting stuck believing that your current feelings will never go away and can never be changed.
Thank you for bringing your wonderful perspective to this post and the quote that you mentioned is something I would love to live by. I'm glad you could relate to my experiences.
"My rage had shattered with the glass, and so had his. We talked, hugged, ate some instant noodles, and called it a day."
In my first marriage, and in my own messy journey towards the tiny mindfulness practices I now live as my normal. I shattered many a glass. A salad bowl (full to the brim) hit the wall right next to my then-husband, and my rage tumbled to the ground with the shards and the peppers. He stormed off and told me to "clean up my mess".
I'm not sure anyone's journey to mindfulness is a tidy one. it's more of an ugly-cry meander through muck to find the lotuses.
I'm honored to share the Mindfulness Space with you here on Substack. I'm so glad we are friends.
You're amazing for doing what you're doing Teri!
It’s so true that the path to mindfulness is far from neat—it’s often messy and full of those intense moments. Your honesty about that salad bowl moment hits deep because so many of us have been there in one way or another, where rage and vulnerability collide. I love how you’ve turned those experiences into something beautiful. I’m glad to share this space with you too, and so grateful for our friendship here on Substack.
Thanks for sharing your journey it is great to read the "university of life" approach you have taken to get here with your mindfulness. Good for you for picking yourself up, finding a way to be a better you, and then sharing with others. Take good care.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It's true that sometimes the bad phases of your life push you in the right direction. Happy that you could resonate with it.
We are all definitely just figuring it out. Mindfulness and conscious living is a journey, and I find it meaningful to walk it together. :)
“You can learn from me or choose not to—it’s up to you.” I think this is so true about everything in life. The universe is constantly teaching us lessons, but we must choose to listen.
Very true! It's said that you cannot save someone who doesn't want to be saved and similarly, you cannot force your life lessons on someone. Those who resonate with your message find you naturally, without many efforts. Thank you for your kind words!
What a powerful read, and I can relate.
This anger you have within you I have too. It’s rage and violence. I was afraid of it for years. I still am, partially, but I’ve started embracing it and now on my way to alchemise it. These emotions, they’re powerful and our power is there within the shadows, somewhere beyond the wounding and the hurt parts.
Have you used IFS as a way to meet the parts in the shadows?
Thank you for this beautiful honest piece.
So much to feel into and with here 💙 I know it was a while back, but I just want to say that I am so sorry you experienced that kind of loss. Thank you for sharing this whole post and with such humility.
Thank you so much for your kind words Sarah! Yes it was the most painful thing I've experienced but as I wrote, I have learned to accept it....and your compassion means a lot!
I love the way you connect the dots & how they can become stepping stones for us. Glad to have found your space via Don Boivin
Thank you so much Marjorie! I'm glad you could resonate with my writing and I'm happy to connect with you as well.
Sonaakshi, this was really awesome. So engaging, so heartfelt, so well written! I’m sorry it took me so long to subscribe, but I’m doing it right this instant!
Thank you for this vulnerable and yet uplifting and inspiring share 🙏💚
Oh you know how much it means coming from you right?!! I've been a fan of your work since I have joined Substack and your kind words means a lot. I'm trying to be better everyday and this kind of feedback inspires me to do so. And thank you so much for subscribing!
Your effort shows, very much, Sonaakshi! Thank you in return for your flattering words! 🙏💚
Thanks for sharing a bit of your journey with us. I think it's realistic that mindfulness is ups and downs, some days we're better at it than others and that's ok. Sharing your real journey and not some polished cleaned up version is way more helpful, because it's real.
This piece is a beautiful reminder that we are all a mix of light and darkness. Your journey of self-acceptance and forgiveness is so powerful. It's a lesson I'm still learning – to embrace all parts of myself, even the messy ones, and to let go of the need for perfection. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Sonaakshi, I can relate to the emotions that surge out of proportion to the incident at present. Many don’t we know I’m sensitive and emotional person. That’s how well I’ve taught to cover up.
But now I realize that healing and being who I’m is what is liberating. I’m happy that you’ve found your way to this kind of awareness and stability. I’m somewhere in the middle and still need to get there. I’m writing about it too.
And I’m so sorry for your child. I can only imagine the pain.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your own journey. It's sad that we have to hide the sensitive, vulnerable side of ours because the world is not more accepting of raw emotions. Yet there's so much freedom in embracing who we really are and healing from within. It sounds like you're well on your way to finding that peace, even if you're still in the middle of it. Writing is such a powerful tool for reflection and growth, so I'm sure it will help guide you. And thank you for your compassion—it means a lot.
Thank you for bringing your wonderful perspective and sharing your personal experience here. Your kind words means a lot to me. I'm glad to have found someone like you who has experienced something similar in life. I do not know what IFS is, please do enlighten me more about it. Again, appreciate your comment on this post.
Oh you know how much it means coming from you right?!! I've been a fan of your work since I have joined Substack and your kind words means a lot. I'm trying to be better everyday and this kind of feedback inspires me to do so. And thank you so much for subscribing!
A beautiful piece! I have had a lot of this messiness in my life too, even when I went to retreats at fancy resorts.
Thank you for sharing, it’s so important for us to hold gratitude for every part of the journey!